Monday, October 6, 2014

Best of times, Worst of times

On Friday, October 3, 2014, my mother died at 6:05am. I was going to go down to see her today (October 6th) with Jess and Steph. She was in a nursing home and refused to eat or drink or take an IV a week earlier but I thought hearing we'd be coming down would mean she'd have something to hang onto awhile longer. I guess it's not all about me.

Twelve hours later Stephanie and Ben Fischer became husband and wife. He's a good man and they're a good couple and the day was tarnished a bit by the news of my mother but I held up pretty well. I was awakened by my sister Cynthia at 7:30 that morning and was told the news.

The first one I told was Peggy,  Then, while working out at the club, I decided I better tell Cynthia not to tell my ex, Diane about it, to spare Diane having to keep the secret until I could decide whether it would be better to share it with Jess and Steph.

At 9:19 am I texted and asked Cynthia not to tell Diane:

"Did you tell Diane? Let me decide when to do that, being Sxteph's wedding day and all. Thanks for taking care of all this. Love, Stephen."
 It was a moot point. When I finished working out we received a group text from Diane at 9:54 am:

"Thoughts and prayers with all of you and ur family. She was a great woman and I have so many find memories of Melba. She will be missed."  

I guess I could have expected that. Maybe Cynthia was right in not letting me worry about whether I should hide that or not but it should have been my decision.

The funeral isn't until October 18th. That's good and bad. Closure put off until then? Whatever...